Are men supposed to chase women? Is it OK for women to chase after men? I think nowadays we see a little bit of both. Jump back 40 years and things change a little bit. Not that I was alive to see what things were like then, but I’ve heard enough old folk say “Back in my day Slim, we didn’t have these cellular phone things. You asked a girl out on a date.” That’s true. But nowadays, many a man is happy to just get away with a screen name or email address. And even if we somehow get a girl’s phone number, which is easier for folks blessed with good genes or the gift of gab, we will probably opt to first send an impersonal text message to test out the waters and see what the chances are we can seal the deal within a respectable amount of time (Under 3 weeks). Now let me make this clear before I continue…

THESE ARE NOT NECESSARILY THE THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS OF SLIM JACKSON, BUT MORE SO A COLLECTIVE POOL OF THOUGHTS THROUGH MANY A DISCUSSION DURING THE COURSE OF HIS EXISTENCE ON EARTH.

With that disclaimer, I’m hoping to avoid any “shame on you” comments that people who know me personally will be attempting to make. Take that somewhere else, or I will blog about you…

Anyways, it’s not only men that will revert to this text message methodology. Women are equally guilty. All too often do I hear conversations between my XY counterparts about the meanings of text messages from guys and what it means if a guy doesn’t respond to what they sent and so on and so on. It isn’t necessary to be as aggressive in 2008. People just need to accept that. Once you have text capabilities with somebody, you can learn a lot about them without even picking up the phone. Throw in the social networking sites that allow you to send messages behind the scenes and see who knows who, and you have one more passive tool at your disposal.

I like my Men/Women to be aggressive Slim. They need to holla at me. They better be fly too. I don’t date losers…

Alright, that’s BS. More than likely you have dated a loser. We all have. You may need to go back to middle school to remember it. That person may have been cute and cool then ladies, but now he’s doing time for dealing drugs, can’t keep a job, or he just can’t leave the town you grew up in. You just don’t know it because you don’t care about him because he is now a loser. And dudes just don’t care to remember back that far unless that’s when they first achieved the promised land.

There are some bursty and aggressive individuals out there. For example, men who will grab a woman by the arm and say “what yo number is?” or “damn you look good girl, won’t you back that ass up!” a la Juvenile. I hate it when I’m in an environment with a bunch of bursty men trying to holler at a few select girls/women (these women sometimes get gassed as a result), especially when it is getting close to the end of the event! It’s a free for all. I just want to get out the door, but get trapped watching the bottom of the 9th efforts to scoop a few numbers and hopefully someone who isn’t too drunk to consent. It’s annoying listening to all the punchlines. Many of which are lame. I guess that would explain why some women wear decoy wedding rings (thanks Vanessa for the idea).

On the flip side however, I’ve seen women get angry when no dude is talking to them. Just looking all sorts of unhappy, further compounding their situation. I’ve also seen women check out guys, try to make eye contact, then move toward their vicinity in hopes of drawing attention. I’ve even seen girls try to come up to the bar and wait for a dude to buy them a drink. Unfortunately for those types, that dude will never ever be me for a multitude of reasons. But ,I have seen women approach dudes on the humble and spark up a conversation. Yes. It does happen. It intrigues me, as it probably does the average male, to see a woman respectably present herself. It is a thing of beauty, but it can backfire with the male who is only interested in what happens at the end of the night. I’ve seen those types of girls/women as well. The ones who will say “damn, you look good”, flip their hair, then ask what’s good after the event. There’s nothing wrong with that. Everybody has their needs. Just don’t be surprised if you feel disrespected within a few days. And yes, that part is my opinion.

This blog is already too long. I will have to break this up into 2 parts. I guess I know what I will write about over the weekend….stay tuned.